Monday, April 7, 2014
Wrestling with the Guilt of Child Care
First of all, you should be looking carefully at all of the places where you plan to send your children. When you are sending your children somewhere for child care, it is up to you to make sure that you have researched this place and that you know it is a safe and good quality place. You want to be sure that it has a good safety record, and that you will be able to know that your children are going to be safe there. Researching the history is going to be part of what you can do to make sure that you wont' feel guilty about leaving your children somewhere. Also, you want to make sure that you are able to research the people who are working in the child care setting, to be sure that they are going to be good people. If you can have your own ways to be confident about the situation that you are putting your children into, you might find that you feel less guilty.
There are other things that you can do to make sure that you don't feel guilty about child care. First of all, stop in during the day and see what your children are doing and how they are feeling. You might find that they are having a great day and that they enjoy their child care setting very much. In fact, it might just be that seeing them happy in that setting is something that will help you ease the guilt of childcare.
If you simply cannot get past the guilt that you have when your child is in child care, it might be time for you to make some decisions. Look at the cost of child care versus how much you are making while you are able to work, including the benefits that working gives you. Is it something that is really worth it to some people? You might find that after you deduct the cost of child care from your salary, it simply isn't worth it for you to be working. Can you survive on your spouse or partner's salary, if you are lucky to have one? Is there some other way you can work your own schedule that will allow you to spend more time with your children? Many people find that if they can make one day per week to stay home with their children, they don't feel as guilty about having them in child care the rest of the time. Many employers will be willing to work with you to make sure that your situation works out well for both of you.
Lastly, remember that if your child is in child care, you should take whatever time you need to make sure that the time that you spend together as a family is good quality time. This can greatly help ease your guilty feelings that you might have when you cannot be with your children. Many people find that if they strive to make the times together good times that are quality times, they don't feel so bad about putting their children into child care when they need to.
Posted by Kate2014 at 3:52 AM