Some parents may be having difficulty when it comes to working with their children in a manner that does not completely lose the interest of the child or children. As a result, they may find themselves worried about getting to a point where they can work with and engage their children at the same time. While this is entirely possible, it is important for the parents to consider their own, individual children at the same time. Children are all unique and important, and before parents can properly engage them the parents need to have properly analyzed their children and become familiar with the basic likes and dislikes of their children. This will help the parents to achieve success when it comes to working with and engaging their children. What is exciting to one child may not be to the next.
Learning for children can be very tricky. Whether they are trying to learn a scholarly concept or a household task, the ways in which children can come to conceptualize these things varies from one child to the next. When it comes to working your own children, it will be important to first know how they pick up on things and what are the most effective tools for the individual child. You will only be able to engage your children if you are able to get and hold their attention. As you come to teach then and work with them, it will be important that you change the structure of their work to facilitate their changes and growth as a human being. Some children work best when listening to music. By having a sing-along with a child while doing chores together around the house, the parent is not only successfully working with the child, the parents are also engaging the child and making the activity less boring and more enjoyable. However, some children prefer a challenge.
By giving the child a time limit and a reward, parents can keep their child’s sense of competition up, but also get a particular task done. The important thing when it comes to competitive children and time limits, however, is to remember that the task still needs to be done correctly; otherwise it will need to be done again. Time limits should be set so that they reflect the difficulty of the task and also the capabilities of the child. Setting an unrealistic time limit could do more harm than good in these cases.
There are just as many different types of work that can be performed with and for children as there are manners of engaging them. This is why it is so important for parents to remember to work on an individualized basis. Even homes with more than one child in them will likely need more than one manner of engagement. For some parents, this can take time since they need to work with their separate children in potentially different manners, if their children to not share the same motivating factors, but at the same time, in the long run the parents will be accomplishing a lot more. Some parents are going to be able to think of tasks and manners of engagement for their children easily, and other individuals will need more time. This is fine and to be expected – the important thing is not to rush through the process. If an individual rushes through the process, they will likely be wasting their time and they may become frustrated at the result. Knowing your child will help tremendously with these tasks. By taking adequate time and completing a successful analysis, the odds of success are greater.
Remember, we can avoid punitive and coercive control by using positive reinforcement!